I was talking to a friend of mine the other day about his dating situation. He’s a really great guy and (as far as I can see) pretty in demand on the dating market. He mentioned that someone had expressed in interest in him and my question to him – automatically – was, and what did you do?
Because that’s what this whole dating situation is all about – Reciprocation! You can’t date someone who is not dating you! What do I mean? Read on….
Ladies – there is no problem with you showing interest in a man. Asking discreet questions. Getting to know him over a long period of time through church, work, school or through friends-in-common. There is a BIG problem, however, when you pursue men who have (thus far) shown no interest in you.
Women who call frequently and only receive sporadic return phone calls. Women who arrange dates and wait in vain for their young men to invite them to dinner. Women who put themselves in the object of their interest’s way, only to receive a passing hello or an even more passing goodbye. In other words, women who pursue, but are never similarly pursued.
I have something to unequivocally say about most men: Men will go after a woman they are interested in. Period.
Ladies – no one is that shy, that busy or that scared to pursue a relationship. I don’t care what he tells you! More than likely, he is telling you those things (or you have convinced yourself those things are true) because he does not want to be in a relationship….with you. Want to be sure? Watch him closely to see who he is dating. Notice the attention he pays to her. Notice that she seems to have no problem getting a date, getting a return phone call or getting ‘quality time’ with him. This is the sight of a man who is interested. Note it for future reference. And learn from this experience.
It’s time to fact the truth – He’s just not interested. And it’s not personal. I’ve been there, you’ve been there, heck, we’ve all been there! He doesn’t know you well enough to know if you would make a great wife, a wonderful friend or a Christian soulmate. His head (for some reason or another) is somewhere else or he is doing something else. There is no need to concern yourself with the details or try to figure out the reasons why. Just LEAVE IT ALONE.
Know why? You are worth more than that. You deserve someone who is interested in you and can show that interest by returning your phone calls, taking you out on dates, spending ‘qualilty time’ with you and getting to know your Christian soul.
Just hold out for this guy. He’s on the way.
And Be Strong….